“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” – Brian Tracy
Most
of us hope that by the time we turn 30, life just magically falls into
place. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. We can’t just blow the
candles out from our thirtieth birthday cake and hit the fast track to
life. Success when turning 30 is all relative to personal perspective,
and finding that path means identifying what success actually looks like
to you.
If you’re turning 30 and have yet to
feel successful, don’t be alarmed because you’re not alone. To build a
successful future for your thirties and beyond, forget about comparing
your life to others, and start putting your energy into mastering theses
15 habits.
“Great people, no matter their field, have similar habits. Learn them and use them in your own quest for greatness.” – Paula Andrew
1. Self-Validation
“I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show, and all 30,000 had one thing in common: They all wanted validation…I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire.” – The Oprah Winfrey Show
If you are
searching for validation from others before you take your first steps to
success, you may never get there. Finding validation from within means
that you are freeing yourself to trust in your life’s purpose, when no
one else does. Once you begin to trust yourself, more people will want
to hear what it is you have to say.
Successful
people seek self-validation by embracing their own self worth, even when
someone is trying to tear them down. While some negative comments can
be very constructive for their personal growth, others can be just plain
rude. Successful people always remember their life purpose and they
always believe in their abilities.
- Don’t take negative comments too seriously
- Do remind yourself of your strengths daily and experiment with daily mantras
2. Body Empowerment
“Thirty was so strange for me. I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that I am now a walking and talking adult.” -C.S. Lewis
Your
body can be a great tool for success. People tend to base first
impression on appearance, so something as subtle as poor posture can
really damage your alpha composure, no matter how well dressed you may
be.
Successful people empower their body by
treating it like a temple. They eat balanced meals with fruits and
vegetables to keep a strong mind and a healthy body. They stand tall and
confident, insist on eye contact, and they shake hands firmly to debut
their confidence. Taking care of their body also means exercising
regularly, avoiding fast foods, and dressing the part.
- Don’t let physical limitations determine the rest of your life
- Do know success is not about what you have, but how you use what you have
3. Living In The Now
“One must simply take the days of their lives as they happen. If you spend time worrying over what is to come, which may or may not happen, then you will only be wasting precious days you will wish in the future you could have cherished a bit longer.” ― R.J. Gonzales
You
want to live in the present because you can’t change the past and the
future is yet to come. Moments can change on a dime, and over planning
anything can ultimately become a waste of time. It can be easy to remain
stagnant or stuck on an idea, but the goal is to move onward and upward
with the present to achieve success.
It’s rare
that you will ever find a successful person bogged down from their
past. They tend to always express and address all of the skeletons in
their closet. Successful people are also always prepared for the
unexpected, but continue to keep a strong momentum for the present in
order to reach their goals ahead.
- Don’t believe there’s only one way to achieve your success
- Do use past experiences to make wiser decisions in the present
4. Organization
“Order is the sanity of the mind, the health of the body, the peace of the city, the security of the state. Like beams in a house or bones to a body, so is order to all things. – Robert Southey
Organizing
your sleep schedule, your work schedule, or even your workout schedule,
can help keep you on a productive track. Starting each day with goals
and objectives to complete, can really give you something to work
towards. Setting aside time for each individual project allows you to
feel fulfilled when you see work actually being accomplished.
For
successful people, it’s all about schedules and lists. It’s not about
planning every second of every day, but simply outlining priorities and
listing the steps that are needed to meet deadlines and complete
projects on time.
- Don’t navigate around everyone else’s schedule
- Do make time for hobbies, reading, traveling, and relaxing (this is important for your creativity and well-being)
5. Time Management
“Successful people make their decisions quickly and change their minds slowly. Failures make their decisions slowly and change their minds quickly.” ―Andy Andrews
The
older I get the more I realize how valuable time is. There’s only 24
hours in a day, and to make the most of that time, we have to make quick
decisions, we have to do what we love, and we have to stop complaining
if we are not willing to make a change. To use your time wisely ask
yourself, “Am I doing anything right now that is amounting to my life
goals?” If not, ask yourself, “What can I be doing right now to help
myself succeed?”
J.K. Rowling is a prime
example of a successful person who made great use of time. Although she
struggled to find work after her divorce, she used her free time to
write while her daughter attended school. Creating the “Harry Potter”
series, Rowling went from welfare to best-seller because she made use of
her unemployment.
- Don’t multitask; this leads to holes in your work
- Do turn 6 individual tasks into 1 bigger task by creating flow in your schedule. i.e Avoid the back and forth commutes to the city and make one big trip, checking one thing off your list at a time.
6. Separation From Technology
“Learning to power-down technology is an important life skill with numerous benefits. It is becoming a lost art in our ever-connected world. But the wisest of us take time to learn the discipline. And live fuller lives because of it.” – Becoming Minimalist (Website)
From
personal experience, I’ve been addicted to social media, checking my
followers, my likes, my comments, and my messages. It’s strange how
quickly it can become a full time job. I soon realized that I needed
step away from social media because it was actually more of a burden
than it was worth. The trick is to find balance and to not forget the
reason why you began your path to success in the first place.
Technology
brings much convenience to successful people, but success does not mean
being held captive of your own devices like a GPS system. Successful
people are people who recognize when they should turn their phone down
or off. They understand how important it is to step away from technology
to spend time alone or with their family. This is because mental breaks
are important for their sanity, and a great way to declutter their
active minds.
- Don’t let your phone and social media notifications own you.
- Do make designated times throughout the day to check yours devices so you can avoid checking for notifications every 3-5 minutes. (wasting time)
7. Selecting The Right Relationships
“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey
It’s
not about cutting everyone out of your life who has ever done you
wrong; it’s about surrounding yourself with like-minded people who will
put in as much energy as you.
Successful people
avoid others who are negative, disabling, and manipulating. It’s easy
for a successful person to cut someone out of their life if the
relationship does not add up to 50/50.
- Don’t think that you owe anyone your time if they stump your growth or drain your enthusiasm
- Do give time to the people who deserve it
8. Open-Mindedness
“Critical feedback is the breakfast of champions. Defensiveness is the dinner of losers.” – Dharmesh Shah
Sometimes
your feelings can be hurt when someone points out one of your flaws,
but it’s part of the territory when you become successful. Being open
minded allows to you take criticism and apply it in positive light.
Sometimes the judgment of others can just be their fear of the unknown,
and you have to just open your mind to their world and understand that
they have different thoughts, ideas, belief and values from you, and
that’s okay. If not, feedback can really wear you down.
Successful
people are accepting to new ideas and have mastered compromise and
colabering. They have no expectations of others, other than the truth
and respect. By keeping an open mind they put more energy into their
self, rather than the business of other people.
- Don’t gossip, spread rumours, or stretch the truth of others.
- Do confront people in private if you hold concerns for their actions and/or words.
9. Supporting Others
“You were born with the ability to change someone’s life – don’t ever waste it.” – Dale Partridge“Before you dismiss a beginner’s work, remember how much you sucked when you started. You probably sucked worse, actually.” – Jason Fried
Turning
30 means that you should be getting out of any selfish ways to help
make a difference. It takes teamwork to be successful and now that you
are coming into your own, this is the best time for you to not only
surround yourself by mind-liked people, but also encourage them and
build lifelong partnerships.
Successful people
don’t want to fall down the rabbit hole of comparison. They want to
inspire, build, and network with like-minded people that they believe
in. It’s all about building unity and working as a team to become
successful together. Often they make kind gestures to help others excel
without expecting anything in return, however, when a pay it forward
gesture is made they are grateful.
- Don’t lead someone for solely your own benefit, be respectable
- Do feel proud to see someone achieve success knowing you played a role in their greatness.
10. Getting Uncomfortable
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar“Obstacles are those things you see when you take your eyes off the goal.” – Henry Ford
To
be successful in life, you need to take risks. In order to take risks
you need to stop worrying about what might happen if it doesn’t work
out. Yes, it can mean being in an uncomfortable situation, but instead
of looking at something like a financial burden, think of it as an
investment in your future.
They are successful
because they try new things, and they know that there’s an exception to
every rule. Vera Wang, once known as a professional figure skater, moved
into fashion with no formal experience. She spent 17 years working as
an editor for Vogue, and when she was denied the editor-in-chief
position she left the company. For the next two years Vera worked as a
design director for Ralph Lauren, but after struggling to find the right
dress for her upcoming wedding, she left the company to open “Vera Wang
Bridal House Ltd.” The rest is history.
- Don’t stay stagnant if you are not growing
- Do understand that as long as you are not hurting anyone in the process of success, taking risks will help you rise above
11. Letting Go Of Perfection
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
To
let go of your type-A personality, sometimes you have to just remind
yourself that this will not be your last and only chance. Success is to
follow your passion, and passion needs to be implemented into your
lifestyle. If you think you will nail everything in one go, you might be
fooling yourself.
The main ingredient to
success is failure, so it’s no surprise that most successful people have
the capacity to let go of perfection to take their first steps. They
know that success is ongoing and learning never stops.
- Don’t think that perfection exists, it doesn’t
- Do know that you can make something perfect for you, for the moment, but like time, everything eventually evolves, including your idea of perfection.
12. Addressing Problems
“Telling people ‘no’ does not need to be an act of rejection. Learning to say no the right way can prove you’re an attentive teammate.” – Brian de Haaff, cofounder and CEO of Aha! Labs Inc.
When
you address a problem at the root, you are buying yourself time and
energy. Whether that’s admitting a mistake before the mistake has even
surfaced, keeping open communication with the people around you, or
using a strong “No” to avoid unstable situations. None the less, being
proactive in every situation will be beneficial to you.
Before
anything gets out of hand, successful people like to source the root of
their problem as soon as possible. This helps them bypass hours, days,
or even weeks of troubleshooting a situation.
- Don’t bush problems under the rug, that’s where problems go to manifest and marinate until they become unmanageable.
- Do be aware of high-risk potential problems (like knowing the fire doors on a airplane), keep a close eye without obsessing.
13. Being A Leader
“If you are honest, truthful, and transparent, people trust you. If people trust you, you have no grounds for fear, suspicion or jealousy.” – Dalai Lama
To be a leader, you
mentor the people around you instead of having expectations of them.
Success is teaching, rather than barking demands and reminding people
why you are the one barking.
Most successful
people are successful because they lead and encourage, rather than bully
others around with their “superior” status.
- Don’t gloat, people wont respect that quality
- Do your part, get in the action, get messy, and have fun with the people around you, you’re a team player
14. Working Hard
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’” – Audrey Hepburn“I will not waste time on second thoughts. My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement.” ― Andy Andrews
To
make success out of the impossible you have to believe that you can
make something out of anything. You have to always go that extra mile,
and no matter how crazy of an idea you may have, just go for it. It
might just be the next best thing.
At 36 years
old, Julia Child, had moved to Paris, France with no experience in great
food. It didn’t take long for her interest in French cuisine to spike,
steering her in the direction famous Le Cordon Bleu cooking school. By
the age of 50 she had published the book “Mastering the Art of French
Cooking”, and went on to have her own TV show. Successful people don’t
always know what they are going to be successful at, but with healthy
lifestyle habits anyone can find success in new or old passions.
- Don’t discourage your ideas because it hasn’t been done before
- Do see opportunity in the untouched field
15. Perseverance
“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.” – Albert Einstein“Failure is a prerequisite for great success. If you want to succeed faster, double your rate of failure.” – Brian Tracy
The
goal is to not let any hiccup or roadblock discourage your passion to
dream big. Turn that dream into reality and never give up on yourself.
Successful
people can’t be stopped once they start. They might not always know
what they are trying to achieve in the moments, but all of their failed
attempts usually lead to a form of greatness.
- Don’t see failure as a dead-end but as an opportunity to grow
- Do learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others
“For the most part, “naturals” are myths. People who are especially good at something may have some innate inclination, or some particular talent, but they have also spent about ten thousand hours practicing or doing that thing.” ― Meg Jay“There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure.” – Colin Powell
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