“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future”
~ John F. Kennedy
The one constant
thing in our life is change. We cannot avoid it and the more we resist
change the tougher our life becomes. Trust me, I know this because I was
very skilled at deflecting change in my life. We are surrounded by
change and it is the one thing that has the most dramatic impact on our
lives. Change has the ability to catch up with you at some point in your
life. There is no avoiding it because it will find you, challenge you,
and force you to reconsider how you live your life.
Change
can come into our lives as a result of a crisis, as a result of choice
or by chance. In either situation we are all faced with having to make a
choice – do we make the change or not? I believe it is always better to
make changes in your life when you choose to rather than being forced
to.
We however cannot avoid the unexpected
events (crisis) in our lives because it is these events that challenge
our complacency in life. What we can control when we are experiencing
these challenging events, is how we choose to respond to them. It is our power of choice that enables us to activate positive change in our lives.
Acting
on our power of choice provides us with more opportunity to change our
lives for the better. The more opportunities we create to change our
lives the more fulfilled and happier our lives become. Here are 10
things that you can do in your life that will change your life for the
good, forever:
1. Find Meaning In Life
Spend
some time trying to sort out what is important in your life and why is
it important. What is it that you want to achieve in your life? What are
your dreams? What makes your happy? Your meaning in life gives you
purpose and sets the direction of how you want to live your life.
Without meaning you will spend the rest of your life wandering through
life aimlessly with no direction, focus, or purpose.
2. Create A Dream Board
When
we were children we would daydream all the time. We were skilled at
dreaming and visualising what we would be when we grew up. We believed
that anything was possible. As we grew into adults we lost our ability
to dream. Our dreams became hidden and once we started to feel like
achieving our dreams was impossible.
A dream
board is a great way for us to start believing in your own dreams again.
Seeing our dreams every day on a dream board brings our dreams to life.
Our dreams become real and we start to have believe in the possibility
of achieving these dreams.
3. Set Your Goals To Achieve Your Dreams
Once
you know what is important in your life and what your dream life looks
like for you, you need to take action and set your long-term, medium,
and short-term goals. It is acting on these goals that enable you to
achieve your dreams
Remember your goals may
change. Always be flexible with setting and achieving your goals as
things in life change and your goals need to reflect these changes. It’s
the small steps that you take that create the momentum for change to
happen in your life.
4. Let Go Of Your Regrets
Regrets
will only hold you back in life. Regrets are events of the past and if
you spend all your time thinking about the past you will miss the
present and the future. You cannot change what you did or did not do in
the past, so let it go. The only thing you have control over now is how
you choose to live your present and future life.
I
had a heap of regrets that were holding me back in my life. I came
across the “Balloon Exercise” and got rid of my regrets for good. What
is it? It’s simple — blow up as many balloons as you need. On each
balloon write a regret and then let the balloon go. As the balloon
drifts off into the sky say goodbye to that regret forever. A simple and
powerful exercise that works and can change how you live your life.
5. Choose Some Really Scary Things To Do And Then Do Them
This
is all about you choosing to step out of your comfort zone. Public
speaking is one of the most frightening things anyone can do. I was
petrified of public speaking however, I knew that I wanted to be a
motivational speaker. So I joined Toast Masters to overcome my fear of
public speaking. My first speech was terrible, my knees were knocking, I
broke out in a sweat and I couldn’t stop shaking. But I did it and the
feeling of completing this speech, even though it was terrible was
great. I chose to keep going and now I earn a living as a motivational
speaker. I am still nervous when I get up to speak however it is an
excited nervous and I love it.
Make a list of
scary things that you would kind of like to do but are too afraid to.
Put a plan in place and then go do them. Never stop doing scary things
because if you do your life will become one of complacency and comfort.
6. Start Living A Well-Balanced Life
Our
health does not remain the same. Our physical, emotional, and spiritual
state changes, as we get older. What we can control however is how we
feed our minds and our bodies. Living a balanced and healthy life builds
our resilience to the physical changes of our body. Exercise is the
best way in which we can attain a positive and optimistic attitude
toward life.
Living a healthy, well-balanced
life with lots of exercise is a lifestyle choice that without a doubt
will give you a happier more satisfied and fulfilled life.
7. Face Your Fears
Its
easy to ignore our fears and hope that they will go away.
Unfortunately, it does not work like that. If you want to change your
life, learn to master your fears so they can’t control you any longer.
Our fears are only thoughts in our minds that are not real but over time
we have become to believe that they are true. It is our fears in life
that stop us from living our life to the fullest. We know when our fears
are controlling our lives because we feel discontent, dissatisfied and
unfulfilled.
Once we face our fears we take
back our power to choose how we want to live our lives and when we do
this we change our lives forever.
8. Accept You
The
only person who is going to create change in your life is you! and to
create that change you have to like you. There will be times in your
life where you will face rejection and there will be people who will not
like you that much. Accepting who you are and loving yourself helps you
to move forward in your life. Putting yourself down all the time and
wishing you could be better will only lead you to a life of unhappiness
and discontent.
Find your courage, love
yourself, and step out and do something crazy. Don’t worry about what
anyone thinks or whether it is the right thing to do. In your heart if
it feels right, act on it and go create the life you love.
9. Live In The Moment
Many
of us tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Often,
we get to the other side of the fence we find that this is not so. The
motivation to change our lives comes from our desire to be happy. We are
often so busy focusing on our pursuit of happiness that we miss the joy
of actually living in the moment. Our desire to have happiness in our
lives is a desire of a future state not of the present. We become so
consumed with all our problems and discontent in the present we miss the
precious beauty of the moment.
Sitting on the
beach eating an ice-cream with your best friend or partner is a moment
of happiness. Appreciating and showing gratitude on a daily basis is
experiencing happiness in the moment. Helping those in need brings joy
and happiness to us. This is what living our life in the moment is all
about – don’t miss these moments because you are too busy focusing on
your pursuit of happiness.
10. Experience The Joy Of Learning
Each
time you learn something new you gain more knowledge and with more
knowledge comes more confidence. Learning helps us to be more adaptable
and flexible to new situations. Learning encourages us to be more
creative and innovative in our thinking and we are therefor more
comfortable with the unknown.
Reading books is a
great way for us to learn. To fully embrace the joy of learning, never
stop reading nor searching for more knowledge. Learning gives our life
meaning and this is what makes our life worthwhile.
You
have a choice to make as to how you want to change your life. Choosing
to act on these 10 things will, without a doubt change your life
forever. So what are you waiting for? Go do these 10 things now!

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